The Engagement Gifts

So many years ago the Chinese engagement were arranged by match marker and parents. Which is then arranged by the engagement gifts. However now in morden society this no longer the case and just require two loving couple to commit to each other. 

In Chinese culture there are tradition for gift giving that accompanies the engagement of the couple. 

In the past the potential groom would send three letters: a betrothal letter, a gift letter, and a wedding letter. These letters would consist of what the bride family would give to the bride to be.  

Because the traditions were ever-changing, betrothal ceremonies ranged from a formal proposal letter to a gift exchange. Here are a few of the most practiced rituals.

Here are just some examples of some gifts that are presented to the bride family. 

Engagement gift giving 

Traditionally the groom and his parent present a series of engagement gifts to the bride's family as a sign of respect. The gifts are an acknowledgment of the efforts of the bride's parents in raising an honorable daughter. The acceptance of the gifts by the bride's parents is a sign of their acceptance of the wedding proposal. The tradition of gift giving has evolved to suit modern times. Now, present are given as a token of the engagement. When giving a gift to an engaged Chinese couple, it is best to give the gift in a set of two, as it represents the power of husband and wife.

Li Shi Money

• Another name for Li Shi money is lucky money. Li Shi money should be given in an amount that contains the number 9 for good fortune. For instance, the gift may be in the amount of £9 £99 or £999.

  Tea 

  Tea is an essential engagement gift. These gifts are known as cha-li or tea presents. These can be an assortment of teas or tea cups and pots. Tea seeds are also a good choice and represent future abundance. It is important that the gift be given in a even number, such as two cans of tea or two tea cups. The number four should be avoided as it is bad luck in Chinese culture.
  
  

  Jewelry 

Jewelry is given to the bride by the groom during the engagement period. Typically the jewelry is in a design to bring good luck. Gold bangles in the shape of a dragon-phoenix are popular. 

Fruit and Seeds

• Fruit and seeds should be sent in decorative containers, ensuring that these are presented in even numbers. Some traditional fruit and seeds include lychee, chestnuts, peanuts, dragons eyes, lotus seeds, sesame red beans and dates. Fat choy must be included as it brings prosperity.

Seafood and Poultry

• Engagement gifts also include seafood and poultry. Seafood will include various types of fish as well as shrimp, clams, squid, shark fin and other delicacies. It must be presented in items of six or eight at a time as these numbers bring good luck. Poultry should be presented as two female or two male.

Dragon and Phoenix Cakes

• The tradition of bridal cakes still exists today. Dragon cake, representing the male, and phoenix cakes, representing the female, are given to the bride who then gives these gifts to family and friends.

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